To Stay Or Not To Stay…..In A Relationship……

Posted: June 24, 2010 in Uncategorized

So it’s Summertime and it seems like a lot of Winter-made relationships are coming to a halt right now.  But let’s pretend for a moment it’s not the weather is the reason why you guys are on the verge of a Break-Up.

When you two met it was “Love At First Sight” (As we all think when we first meet the future devil). He was the sun that brightened your day and she lit up the night with her smile. You constantly remind her of how beautiful she is and how lucky you are to have her in your life. She sends you text messages thoughout the day just to let you know you were on her mind. This goes on for a few months and things start to change. The text messages go away, you are no longer beautiful, she starts to care less of how your day was or went. No dinner dates. No flowers. No nothing. But one half of the couple continues on with their daily routine. The other half just reaps all the benefits. Because Loves chose to stick its nasty head into the situation, you are now stuck between a rock and a hard place. You are no longer happy. You tell the other party about your feelings and they stick you with the “Be patient. Things will get better I promise.” Now because Love is your middle name, you want to see this happen. But the relationship starts to sound like a Political Campaign: A lot of broken promises. But what are you left to do? Unhappiness is outweighing Love. You heart starts to break into a thousand pieces because Love is putting you through Hell and Hot Water.

So why are you so scared to call it quits? I have learned when you put someone else feelings over your own feelings you will get your heartbroken. You have to focus on what makes you happy and make sure that your mate knows this also. If only one half of the party is happy and the other half is miserable, the relationship will not work. If the key components in a relationship are missing, the relationship will end before it starts.

The key components in a relationship are:

1. Honesty

2. Trust

3. Communication

4. Time

5. Patience and Understanding

6. Forgiveness

Relationships are just like a job. You take an application, do your research on the individual, interview them, they sell themselves to you, hire them because they seem like a great candidate, and you hope that they have what it takes to get the job done.

You also have to learn the person and vice versa. The likes and dislikes, what make them tick, what makes them laugh, and etc. But when that person starts to slack, it is your responsibility as an employer to notify the employee on their job performance. No changes? Well them we are back at square one: Looking for someone else who is more qualified for the position.

So what are you gonna do? Stay? Or Let Love Go?

Peace and Blessings

  1. Ima_Writer says:

    Alot of people nowadays stay in dead end relationships because of being in love and not think about their own happiness… This blog is absolutely correct and im going to add some more components sacrifice and compromise… those two are very important. seems like youre a young lady with the rules of engagement down packed…. i salute you

  2. Mariland says:

    well written.
    “to stay in a bad relationship is to be one-half of a two-headed jacka$$” –Mariland Wright (I’m Always Wright LoL) but here, you are too. thumbs up.

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